Are you adjudging other ppl? As far as I am aware I'm not. I want to find out whether this is normal or not. Is this normal to "normal / nt" ppl? Is this normal to aspergers-ppl?
(Quick side note: in which cases do I have to put a "s" behind asperger and in which not?)
I also want to find out whether I am actually not adjudging the person. Maybe my understanding of "adjudging" is false.
For a really long time I did not get into any trouble, because my opinion was not asked. E. G. at school nobody would ask me something about someone else, because I was totally excluded and noone would talk to me just about me (while hitting my head or trying to pull my pants of or something like that). (Of course this was another kind of trouble. But no trouble caused by me and my opinion about something.) I don't know whether it is strange or not, that I never felt any anger against the ppl doing this. I just didn't understand what was going on at all. Of course I felt bad, through.
Then now at work I am sometimes ask if I think someone is good at this or that. If I don't think he/she is good at that, I say "No, I don't think so." and sometimes after a while I realize that it would have been better not to say that. Because it puts the person in a bad position, and I don't and this, because I did not say the person is bad, I just said that I think he/she is not good (equals bad) at a certain task. Do you understand? There is clearly a difference between those two, isn't it?
Also for my medical doctor. I quite often think that he must be quite uninformed. I did not tell him that so far, do you think I should? It takes some effort for me not to tell him and I often think I should so that he can change, but then, on the other hand, I have bad experience with telling doctors that they are wrong. And I have speach-problems (with him especially), so I would probably not come much further than telling that he is uninformed.
So, do you think I'm adjuding? Yes, I do think my medical doctor is uninformed (I do not change by the way, because it is so much effort to explain the hole story from the beginning... I think I should take this effort!), and I do think that some ppl are better at certain tasks than others. I am bad at very much tasks. But I don't hate/dislike (nor like of course!!) any person, even though some persons have done things to be which are adjudged by the society (things not described here). But it is possible that my "hate"-word and the societies "hate"-word are different? This is all strange!
Thank you for reading! I would be happy about comments!